Joey and his mom (pictured, left) experienced some rough patches over the
last two of years but they talked regularly, even two days before she
died. Joey shares, “She was supportive
and excited about my move into SCL.” Joey
was understandably upset about his mom, and needed time to deal with the loss. What was an exciting time in Joey’s life
suddenly became overwhelming. Joey needed more support than ever to get through
life’s latest hurdle before him. WFC
staff asked Joey, what do you want to do, how do you want to proceed? Despite the staggering setback, Joey wanted
to move forward with his move into SCL.
Both Joey and WFC staff carried on, making the best of a difficult
situation.
Distractions can often provide temporary relief from
grief. One WFC staff member took Joey,
ever the entertainer who enjoys being the center of attention, to a McDonald’s
drive-thru window. There, Joey sang
his food order with The McRap song, a hip-hop YouTube
song that was all the rage.
The unsuspecting McDonald’s clerk did not get the joke, expressed
confusion, thus prompting Joey to repeat the entire McRap order again! The prank
offered bright spot of laughter in the midst of Joey’s grief.
When people are down, God has a way of lifting you up. One day, the pastor, a deacon, and another church
member from the church Joey’s mom attended came by the Campus to see Joey. They were concerned about him, asking if he
had any unmet needs now that his mother was gone. Over the next several months, they would visit
Joey often, checking on him and reassuring WFC staff that whatever he needed,
they would see to it financially and otherwise.
Joey eventually returned to the church he and mother attended, for
support and in memory of his mom.
Meanwhile, Joey’s efforts towards SCL independence experienced
unexpected hiccups, which made an already difficult situation even tougher for
Joey. These glitches frustrated WFC
staff. Says one staff member, “giving
Joey any more bad news broke their heart,” leaving them feeling as if they were
kicking a man already down.
Whenever we go after what we want, challenges pop up and
they did in Joey’s quest for independent living. Frustration happens. The key is to plow through the challenges
with perseverance and patience. WFC
staff knew this goal was important to
Joey and they did everything possible to empower him as he moved through the
jungle of bureaucracy to reach his goal.
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